Sweet LITTLE Serenity

vikingdeathmar:

fun123joker:

maleeshda3wa:

yayasmeen:

I think my selfie problem is getting out of hand..

This deserves at least a thousand notes !!

the last one

Literally more selfies because I see no problem.

We are used to ignoring our own bodies. “These carrots are too spicy” we complained as a child, only to be told no, they were sweet, that the music wasn’t too loud, nobody can hear lights, what you are experiencing is invalid. We heard: you are invalid. You do not experience the world the same way as everyone else, and therefore, your experience is wrong. You learn to ignore the ever-present pain because nothing can be done about it, but then you have a kidney infection and others get mad at you for not noticing sooner. But why should you trust your body when it is always wrong?

"Can you re-enact your reaction to being cast in a Marvel movie?" [x]

rnyspacing:

MR. PRESIDENT

facebooksexism:


[This is from a screencap from my friend’s page that she shared on Facebook that was too small to read. These are the words of Letha Connor Frye.]
There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books…..to them I say this:
Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual. 
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so, and informs her [that] he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a [Submissive] would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the fact of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the [Submissive]. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do [to] her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources; he didn’t over her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their Submissive.
Fuck. This. Book. It’s written in a shitty way [and] it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstanding and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
with love,
Your friendly RL non-fictional Pervert.
Me. [Letha Connor Frye]
—To Ms. Frye, I completely and wholeheartedly agree.—

_________
While I am 100% here for people calling out 50 Shades, I have a question I’ve long wondered about the BDSM mantra…isn’t the use of “sane” ableist and can feel pretty exclusionary? 

This is why there’s an analogous model called “RACK” - “Risk Aware Consensual Kink.”
goddessthain would be able to explain this much better than I!

facebooksexism:

[This is from a screencap from my friend’s page that she shared on Facebook that was too small to read. These are the words of Letha Connor Frye.]

There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books…..to them I say this:

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so, and informs her [that] he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a [Submissive] would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the fact of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the [Submissive]. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do [to] her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources; he didn’t over her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their Submissive.

Fuck. This. Book. It’s written in a shitty way [and] it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstanding and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

with love,

Your friendly RL non-fictional Pervert.

Me. [Letha Connor Frye]

—To Ms. Frye, I completely and wholeheartedly agree.—

_________

While I am 100% here for people calling out 50 Shades, I have a question I’ve long wondered about the BDSM mantra…isn’t the use of “sane” ableist and can feel pretty exclusionary? 

This is why there’s an analogous model called “RACK” - “Risk Aware Consensual Kink.”

goddessthain would be able to explain this much better than I!

Glad I didn’t have to dilate today! #eyes #contacts

Glad I didn’t have to dilate today! #eyes #contacts

facebooksexism:


[This is from a screencap from my friend’s page that she shared on Facebook that was too small to read. These are the words of Letha Connor Frye.]
There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books…..to them I say this:
Let me
just
fucking
drop
some fucking
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual. 
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so, and informs her [that] he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a [Submissive] would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the fact of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the [Submissive]. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do [to] her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources; he didn’t over her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their Submissive.
Fuck. This. Book. It’s written in a shitty way [and] it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstanding and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
with love,
Your friendly RL non-fictional Pervert.
Me. [Letha Connor Frye]
—To Ms. Frye, I completely and wholeheartedly agree.—

_________
While I am 100% here for people calling out 50 Shades, I have a question I’ve long wondered about the BDSM mantra…isn’t the use of “sane” ableist and can feel pretty exclusionary? 

facebooksexism:

[This is from a screencap from my friend’s page that she shared on Facebook that was too small to read. These are the words of Letha Connor Frye.]

There are a lot of people who are new to the lifestyle or have discovered the life because of a certain series of books…..to them I say this:

Let me

just

fucking

drop

some fucking

knowledge on you right now.

Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.

So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so, and informs her [that] he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a [Submissive] would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the fact of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the [Submissive]. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do [to] her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources; he didn’t over her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their Submissive.

Fuck. This. Book. It’s written in a shitty way [and] it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstanding and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

with love,

Your friendly RL non-fictional Pervert.

Me. [Letha Connor Frye]

—To Ms. Frye, I completely and wholeheartedly agree.—

_________

While I am 100% here for people calling out 50 Shades, I have a question I’ve long wondered about the BDSM mantra…isn’t the use of “sane” ableist and can feel pretty exclusionary? 

roboboners:

bruinsstrong:

This story keeps on getting better and better

"the Bieber-Legolas fight"

roboboners:

bruinsstrong:

This story keeps on getting better and better

"the Bieber-Legolas fight"